For me, I tend to think a lot of what ifs and agonize over the fact that I even have to get out of bed every morning. That kind of negativity, though, can set your mood for the rest of the day. It's not healthy and it's not a happy way to live.
Instead, if you think at least one happy thought in the morning and one at night, you are setting the tone for how your day starts, goes, and ends. You may still come across some bad luck-- getting fired, stepping on gum, making a mistake on a test. But if you end the day focused on that bad energy, you'll end up forgetting any of the good stuff that may have happened as well.
Okay so you stepped in gum that day. You also found $5 in your pants pocket and someone complimented you on your hair. Rather than celebrating those small victories, your mind tunnels only onto the negative.
You have to make a conscious effort.
It's hard but if you train your mind to focus on the positive, rather than the negative, your whole world can change.
Have you ever woken up and felt dissatisfied by the way you look? Have you ever gone to bed reliving a situation that happened earlier that day over and over, wishing things happened differently? Have you ever thought that you weren't good enough? Well, I have. It sucks because deep down, I know I am good enough. I am pretty enough. I am smart enough. I am funny enough. Mistakes happen. Nothing is perfect. Yada yada!
You've heard it before.
Today, I want to share some fresh new inspiration with you. Remember them all, or one, or none. Whatever the case, I hope you get something good out of this.
For every moment you feel weak, scared, anxious, or uncertain, there is a potential in you to fight it with courage. The difference between someone who is happy with their life and someone who is not is how often he or she summons that courage.
No one is exactly 100% like you. As a society, we are trained to blend in and accept the 'norm' but who defines what is normal? If you consider that 'norms' are constantly changing, then it only makes sense that you would never fit inside a predetermined bubble. And that is perfectly acceptable.
Life isn't fair and it isn't a movie. You can't predict the future, despite what that tarot card salesman told you. So don't dwell on the worst case scenario and use it as an excuse to never do anything. You also shouldn't expect that everything will always go your way.
People who judge you for your looks do that because that's all they have. A person who truly values their own self worth would never feel the need to compare. So be empowered and know that what you have on the inside far surpasses what you have on the outside. Eventually when we all get old and pruny, all you'll really have left is the essence of who you are (and believe me, everyone is going to want to hang out with the cool grandma with the funny laughs and wild stories).
You control your happiness. Not your friends, your boyfriend, your mom, your third cousin...YOU. Stop playing the victim and start taking control. If you want that dream job, you go after that dream job. If you want to feel loved, give love. If you want people to appreciate you, appreciate others. If you want to be happy, be happy. Because uh, reality check? No one has the time to hand everything to you on a platter.